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borde, Borde, BORDE!
Jag borde börja träna mer.
Jag borde ringa farmor.
Jag borde äta nyttigare.
Jag borde byta bilresorna till arbetsplatsen mot buss eller cykel – eller kanske fortsätta arbeta hemifrån – för miljöns skull.
Jaha, Så vad hindrar dig då? Mitt svar: ”Borde”. Ett ord som jag bannlyst ur min vokabulär.
Kanske du också borde göra det? 😉
Borde kommer inte inifrån, inte från dig själv.
Hade borde kommit inifrån hade det varit ett ska eller ett vill.
Borde innebär yttre motivation, inte inre. Borde kommer av att vi lärt, läst eller hört att något beteende är önskvärt. Men inte av att vi själva önskar det, egentligen.
Eller grundas borde ofta i något vi tror att andra vill (det må vi ha rätt eller fel i). Till exempel att vi tror att farmor gärna skulle vilja att vi ringde, eller att partnern gärna vill ha en helg på spa, eller en vandring. Eller att kollegan skulle uppskatta en fikastund tillsammans. Men vet vi att det är så? Är det vad vi själva vill?
Utan inre motivation minskar chansen drastiskt att det verkligen blir gjort
Inre motivation slår yttre motivation – varje gång.
Alltså är chansen mycket mindre att det vi borde göra verkligen blir gjort än för det vi vill, ska eller – till och med – det vi måste.
Det vi borde göra blir sällan gjort. Eller hur?
Borde leder oftast till dåligt samvete i stället för till resultat
Borde resulterar alltså oftast i dåligt samvete för att vi inte gjort något som vi vet eller tror att andra vill, men inte vi själva. Inte tillräckligt i alla fall.
Dåligt samvete är bland det mest improduktivt nedbrytande som finns för den egna personen, åtminstone så länge det inte kommer av att vi skadat eller sårat andra. Det skapar bara stress drar ner självbilden, utan att ha lett till något vettigt alls.
Till och med måste eller är tvungen att är bättre än borde. Visserligen är det inte inre motivation bakom, men chansen är bra mycket större att något blir gjort i alla fall och att vi därmed slipper det onödiga dåliga samvetet. Men ännu hellre vill eller ska, så klart.
Nej, Bannlys Borde!
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